When drafting your High-Conflict Custody Agreement, a lot of things will be standard according to your state, such as child support, drop-off times, and medical expenses. The thing about a High Conflict Custody Agreement is that standard papers do NOT work. You might think, oh I am sure we will figure out something if something happens that isn’t in the papers; but guess what? Your ex will ALWAYS twist anything and everything in his favor, unless it is written and signed by a judge saying otherwise…and even then, they still try to twist it!
My favorite question about co-parenting with a Narcissistic Ex is, “How do you do it?” My answer is always: YOU CAN’T.
The idea of co-parenting is separated parents working together amicably to raise their child. Narcissists can’t put others before themselves so the idea of co-parenting is impossible. What you have to do when raising a child whose other parent is a narcissist is to develop coping skills in order to handle their behavior while putting your child’s wellbeing first.
I was recently asked how I handled going to events with my Narcissistic Ex-Husband. I am not a therapist, but I have been trying to co-parent with my narcissistic ex for 6+ years and I’ve come a long way. So learn from my mistakes.