On February 21, 2018, I wrote the following letter about Emotional Abuse Legislature to 26 members of my State’s House of Representatives. Guess how many replies I received? Zero. So today, on International Women’s Day, I find it fitting to remind everyone how laws to protect women are still being ignored.
The Letter
To Whom It May Concern:
“…I fucking hate you and hope you kill yourself one day…”
“….go get a long metal pole and go stand outside in the storm….my hypothesis is that nobody would give a shit if you got struck by lightening.”
“I can’t wait to get the phone call that you have offed yourself.”
My ex-HusBand
These are things I have had to hear on almost a daily basis for almost two years. I am a single mom of two children, a girl, 6, and a boy, 4. When my son was three he asked, “Why does Daddy call you a fucking loser?” I have also had to explain to his day care teacher why he told her “that his dad says his mommy is a fucking bitch.”
I could continue to tell you story after story, but what is the point? They are just stories.
Every person I tell this to, looks as me as if I am dumb and asks why I haven’t gone to the police. I have. The police say it isn’t against the law to tell someone to kill themselves; that it isn’t against the law to harass someone unless it becomes physical. It isn’t against the law to emotionally abuse an ex-wife or their child.
I have hit my breaking point. I have to receive psychological help because of the daily emotional abuse that happens to me. There are only so many times that someone can tell you to kill yourself or what a loser you are or what a terrible mom you are, before it starts to get to you.
I understand getting angry and saying things you don’t mean. We have all done it. I am talking about daily email, texts, phone calls, that tell me to kill myself or that I am worthless. Yet, because they are not threatening physical violence, nothing can be done.
I want to make psychological abuse against the law. My ex-husband is a criminal defense attorney and he knows exactly what he can say so that he does not break the law. That telling me to kill myself will not get him in trouble. The City Police told me that unless I kill myself there was not much that could be done and even then, the laws have not caught up with the time and who knows if then anything could be done.
It is against the law in The U.K. to commit continual psychological abuse, and it should be in The State of —— too. Please see the following article to get an idea of what I would like to be implemented in the State of ——. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/everything-you-need-to-know-about-the-new-psychological-abuse-law-a6789271.html
Please, for the sake of every other woman out there in my place, do something.
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